You haven’t heard from the person you’re dating in two days. They didn’t respond to your last text, and you’re starting to feel that familiar sense of dread. You’re confused because this person was consistently in touch the whole time you were dating, texting every morning, responding promptly to your texts, not pressuring you for sex.

You had a lot in common and were making exciting plans together. Then, all of a sudden, things changed. They started taking time to respond to you, their texts were short, and they stopped setting up dates. Now, you realize it’s over, but you don’t know how you got here. You’re more convinced than ever that you’re not worthy of the love and relationship you want. Why else would this keep happening?

When such a cycle keeps repeating, it wears you down and lowers your self-esteem. It makes you think something must be wrong with you. But, here's the thing: You don't know what you don't know. And if you're like everyone else, there's a lot you don't know. You can't change what you don't know about.

That’s why it’s essential to keep learning. There are many possible reasons you keep repeating the pattern, and none of them are related to your worth.

The following is a list of reasons you attract emotionally unavailable partners and what you can do about it:

It’s important to realize and take ownership of your role in co-creating the repetitive cycle you’re stuck in. You’re always playing a part in your life. Once you know the part you're playing, you can stop perpetuating the same cycle. You can work to heal old wounds and learn new, healthier relational skills. You are the hero of your story. Don’t give up on the loving, healthy relationship you want and deserve. The process of change is uncomfortable and filled with uncertainty, but the reward is worth the work to get there.

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5 Ways You Attract Emotionally Unavailable Partners

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29.04.2024

You haven’t heard from the person you’re dating in two days. They didn’t respond to your last text, and you’re starting to feel that familiar sense of dread. You’re confused because this person was consistently in touch the whole time you were dating, texting every morning, responding promptly to your texts, not pressuring you for sex.

You had a lot in common and were making exciting plans together. Then, all of a sudden, things changed. They........

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