This Thanksgiving feels different to a lot of people. They are glued to the news, concerned about the state of the world, watching or participating in demonstrations and rallies, not sure how to speak to their children about war, and seeing cracks in friendships because of opposing opinions about global events. Anxiety about Israel and Hamas, Russia and Ukraine, Israel and Hezbollah, America and Iran, gun violence, political polarization… the list goes on and on. There are fears for the present and trepidation about the future.

Individuals vary in how they react to anxiety. Some bury their heads in their sand and ignore the rumbling sense of anxiety that seems to permeate society or that lies beneath their exterior. Others are in a hyper-alert state and can’t get enough of the latest, up-to-the-minute news reports and social media feeds.

At a time when people get their news from sources that accentuate their own beliefs and communicate in an echo chamber, emotions become even more intensified. Because of 24/7 media, the international, the interpersonal, and intra-psychic have all converged in a way that we may never have seen before. This tests the metal in each of us.

Much has been written about the death of discourse. It seems that, as a society, we’ve lost the capacity to empathize across our differences—and that’s not just a matter of having opposing views about issues. It’s a matter of not having the internal fortitude to maintain a posture of nonviolent communication and the patience to hear each other. Converting antagonist talk to empathic communication can’t be practiced weakly or meekly. It’s not an accidental posture. It must be approached with strength. It comes from exercising a muscular effort to attain knowledge and understanding.

As Martin Buber wrote in I and Thou, we relate to three things as a Thou: nature, our fellow men, and however you conceptualize the divine. When we are in neurotic, burdened states we tend to pay no attention to any of these. When we become unburdened from our neurotic depressed selves, we are able to revel in the beauty around us and experience a deep sense of gratitude.

As Benjamin Franklin said, out of adversity comes opportunity. Our age of anxiety presents us with what can be considered a Zen challenge. Can we maintain calm and experience gratitude at a time when we are tense, worried, and, perhaps, feeling a bit pessimistic? Like anything else, relaxation and calm take a bit of work.

Here are suggestions for easing your anxiety and fostering your appreciation for the blessings in your life: